10 Things That Kills A Relationship Slowly

I made mention of clear signs that we
often ignore or pretend to manage while
we experience hard time with our partners.
But in this write-up, some points could be
silent but a termite eating up the pillars of
your relationship bit by bit. No relationship
dies in a day and the moment you see
more of the mistakes of your partner, the
more uninteresting the relationship
becomes and the bitterer you are. No
doubt, everyone is bad at something but
when you chose to love, you can only get
better with necessary adjustment. Making a
relationship work is about making efforts.
There is no justification for your weakness
as you can be almost perfect if you put in
some efforts. An absolute change could be
difficult but a positive adjustment is
possible. If you've ever ran on a default
mode lifestyle before you decided to build
a relationship, the moment you do,
knowing you aren't alone, knowing it takes
two to make it work, an immediate shift is
expedient. Satisfying the (wo)man you
really love should be considered along
your decisions. But before a relationship
would hit an all time low, these are
highlights that could lead it there.
1. Issues not discussed – There could be
some areas you desire to have your partner
change or get better at. If you choose to
keep mute about it and you such keeps
receiving your attention and you just can't
ignore, it kills relationships slowly.
2. Lies – Well, this cannot be overstretched.
The more you lie to your partner, the lesser
he/she trust you, and when trust is gone in
a relationship, that’s trouble!
3. Not sharing – No one forms a
relationship by themselves. It takes two to
get at it. A balanced relationship demands
the effort of the-two involved. It’s about
what you-two bring to the center. The
pressure would be one-sided if one person
chooses to be greedy. Sharing is one of
many things that powers a relationship and
makes it balance.
4. Romance Wanted – Absence of romance
in a relationship makes it boring. There are
ways to get at this, read Crazy Ways to
Spark-up Your Relationship.
Romance is sensual and not always
intimate. Identify those things that could
create an intimate moment, things that
sponsors good connection between you-
two and starting doing them. The
importance is simply to keep the attraction
alive.
5. Blaming Your Partner - Yes! Keep
blaming your partner for everything that’s
wrong in your relationship and watch it die
slowly. When you see more of his/her
faults, there will always be something to
complain about and the more the
complains the more the relationship would
lose its value.
6. Lack of Communication – Not in the area
of phone calling or text messages though
also important but specifically in the
awareness of things to do or how to do
them. Both parties must be kept abreast of
what’s coming. Make your moves,
schedules, work or some family related
details clear to your partner. Always
keeping them in the dark brings about
uncertainties that could cause regular
misunderstanding in a relationship.
7. Cohabitation – It’s one of the easiest
ways to make your partner get fed up with
the relationship. When you become too
regular, so many things could lose its value
and get lost accordingly. Read The Dangers
of Cohabitation.
8. Pretense – You seem to be too cool at
everything because you want to impress
him/her, that’s trouble! Whatever happens
to being you should be reversed. Your
partner could take it as being nice or
tolerant. In a real relationship, no one is a
cell-mate, you just be you!
9. Poor Timing – Whatsoever is sharing
your quality time with your partner needs
to be transferred on another time slot.
Having the space for regular conversation
strengthens your relationship and if it’s an
LDR, you either could talk regularly on
phone or pick a day or two in every week
for this. Good time spent together reveals a
lot, strengthens the bond, secures the
relationship and it helps in no little
measure.
10. Too Many Expectations – You want her
to know what you want without saying it?
You expect him to remember almost
everything even when he has got several
matters demanding his attention? Yes, we
are in love and you sure mean a lot to us
but we are human as well. Expect more
and see more faults, expect less and you
will be able to appreciate your partner
more.
If there are issues not discussed in a
relationship, it could make both partners
keep hurtful secrets and in-turn produce
beautiful lies. Blaming your partner while
you appear to be without fault doesn't
make you in-charge but out rightly
discharging the strength of the union.
Cohabiting, though allowed in many
countries is one major reason relationships
will always lose its value quickly and
another reason men and women would be
used and abandoned. Somethings do NOT
go together with a relationship and do
remember that the best of relationships
comes with several sacrifices made.
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