When you have just discovered that your
manis cheating on you...please do NOT do
the following:-
1. Demanding to know about the other
woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you
handle the truth?
2. Insulting the other woman: You are giving
her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if
you insult her to your husband e.g. how is
your slut doing?
3. Forcing him to choose, thinking he will
choose you: There is no competition here-
youwill lose this one! She is new and they are
in the honeymoon phase, you on the other
handare an old habit.
4. Calling him excessively to check on him
like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your
calls even if he is not doing anything bad
just to protect his freedom.
5. Beating the other woman up: You are
creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like
your victim to him. With this one you are still
giving her power.
6. Threatening to leave just to scare him:
You are giving him ideas. You make the
grass seem greener on the other side.
7. Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he
will feel burdened by the tears.
8. Snooping: Dont hurt yourself
unnecessarily.You will find what you are
looking for. Dont break into his e-mails.
Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through
his messages.
9. Being in denial even though the signs are
there: Do something about your knowledge or
you will make yourself sick. Some diseases
are stress-related. Deal with your issues;
dont bottle them up.
10. Telling his mother: For crying out loud!
This is his mother!
11. Committing suicide: Seriously, once
you're gone, you're gone!
13. Don't give him sex again, use body
language to send the slightly insane man
messages, that doesn't stop you from being
concerned in his welfare!
Put the phone down
It is wise to leave his phone alonewhen you
are hurting, deal with your disappointment
instead of going through his phone only to
find more truths that will hurt you.
When his phone rings, leave the room. Even
if its ringing unattended to, leave it alone.
Dont answer his phone. Learn to be strong
and ignore it.
Dont steal numbers of women from his phone
and start embarrassing yourself. These
women will know that you are insecure and
will presson with the affair.
Under no circumstances should you call the
other woman. If you call her you will achieve
nothing except to acknowledge her. She
doesnt exist, treat her like that. Entomb her
in the dust of her own nothingness.
Dont call your man twenty times a day. It is
annoying, he already knows, he violated
your trust. Dont rub it in his face that you
dont trust him. Remember if you want to win
this onecreate your own rules! Go left when
he thinks you will go right!
Culled from the experience of the writer!
manis cheating on you...please do NOT do
the following:-
1. Demanding to know about the other
woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you
handle the truth?
2. Insulting the other woman: You are giving
her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if
you insult her to your husband e.g. how is
your slut doing?
3. Forcing him to choose, thinking he will
choose you: There is no competition here-
youwill lose this one! She is new and they are
in the honeymoon phase, you on the other
handare an old habit.
4. Calling him excessively to check on him
like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your
calls even if he is not doing anything bad
just to protect his freedom.
5. Beating the other woman up: You are
creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like
your victim to him. With this one you are still
giving her power.
6. Threatening to leave just to scare him:
You are giving him ideas. You make the
grass seem greener on the other side.
7. Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he
will feel burdened by the tears.
8. Snooping: Dont hurt yourself
unnecessarily.You will find what you are
looking for. Dont break into his e-mails.
Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through
his messages.
9. Being in denial even though the signs are
there: Do something about your knowledge or
you will make yourself sick. Some diseases
are stress-related. Deal with your issues;
dont bottle them up.
10. Telling his mother: For crying out loud!
This is his mother!
11. Committing suicide: Seriously, once
you're gone, you're gone!
13. Don't give him sex again, use body
language to send the slightly insane man
messages, that doesn't stop you from being
concerned in his welfare!
Put the phone down
It is wise to leave his phone alonewhen you
are hurting, deal with your disappointment
instead of going through his phone only to
find more truths that will hurt you.
When his phone rings, leave the room. Even
if its ringing unattended to, leave it alone.
Dont answer his phone. Learn to be strong
and ignore it.
Dont steal numbers of women from his phone
and start embarrassing yourself. These
women will know that you are insecure and
will presson with the affair.
Under no circumstances should you call the
other woman. If you call her you will achieve
nothing except to acknowledge her. She
doesnt exist, treat her like that. Entomb her
in the dust of her own nothingness.
Dont call your man twenty times a day. It is
annoying, he already knows, he violated
your trust. Dont rub it in his face that you
dont trust him. Remember if you want to win
this onecreate your own rules! Go left when
he thinks you will go right!
Culled from the experience of the writer!
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