The daughter of a flamboyant Hong
Kong tycoon who reportedly offered
80million pounds in dowry to the
man who married her, has written an
open letter to her father asking him
to accept her se*uality.
In an open letter published by South
China Morning Post on Wednesday, Gigi
Chao, 34, reaches out to her father,
asking for him to come to terms with the
fact that she is a lesbian.
Earlier this month, Cecil Chao Sze-tsung,
a 77-year-old property magnate,
insisted that Gigi was ‘still single’,
despite the fact that she married her
long-term partner Sean Eav two years
ago. He reportedly offered to double his
2012 offer of $65m (£40m).
SEE Gigi’ Letter to her father:
Dear Daddy, I thought the timing was
right for us to have a candid
conversation. You are one of the most
mentally astute, energetic yet well
mannered and hard-working people this
humble earth has ever known. Your
confidence, quick wit, and charisma
brightens any room you enter. I love you
very much, and I think I can speak for
my brothers also, that we have the
utmost respect for you as a father and
role model in business. I am sorry that
people have been saying insensitive
things about you lately. The truth is,
they don’t understand that I will always
forgive you for thinking the way you do,
because I know you think you are acting
in my best interests. And we both don’t
care if anybody else understands. As
your daughter, I would want nothing
more than to make you happy.
But in terms of relationships, your
expectations of me and the reality of
who I am, are not coherent. I am
responsible for some of this misplaced
expectation, because I must have misled
you to hope there were other options for
me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the
past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-
lived, relationships. I found myself
temporarily happy, buoyed by the
freshness, the attention, the interest,
of someone physically stronger than
myself. But it was always short-lived, as
I quickly lost patience, and felt an
indescribable discomfort in their
presence. It usually made me
frustrated, and I would yearn for my
freedom again. I’ve broken a few
hearts, hearts of good, honest and
loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to
be so. But with Sean, a woman, somehow
it was different. I am comfortable and
satisfied with my life and completely at
ease with her. I know it’s difficult for
you to understand how I could feel
romantically attracted to a woman; I
suppose I can’t really explain it either.
It just happens, peacefully and gently,
and after so many years, we still love
each other very much.
My regret is that you have no idea how
happy I am with my life, and there are
aspects of my life that you don’t share.
I suppose we don’t need each other’s
approval for our romantic relationships,
and I am sure your relationships are
really fantastic too. However, I do love
my partner Sean, who does a good job of
looking after me, ensuring I am fed,
bathed and warm enough every day, and
generally cheering me up to be a happy,
jolly girl. She is a large part of my life,
and I am a better person because of
her. Now, I’m not asking you to be best
of friends; however, it would mean the
world to me if you could just not be so
terrified of her, and treat her like a
normal, dignified human being. I
understand it is difficult for you to
understand, let alone accept this truth.
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who
I am, what is important in my life, who I
love and how best to live life, as an
expression of all these questions. I am
proud of my life, and I would not choose
to live it any other way (except also
figuring out how to be gentler on the
planet). I’m sorry to mislead you to
think I was only in a lesbian relationship
because there was a shortage of good,
suitable men in Hong Kong. There are
plenty of good men, they are just not
for me. Wishing you happiness.
Patiently yours,
Kong tycoon who reportedly offered
80million pounds in dowry to the
man who married her, has written an
open letter to her father asking him
to accept her se*uality.
In an open letter published by South
China Morning Post on Wednesday, Gigi
Chao, 34, reaches out to her father,
asking for him to come to terms with the
fact that she is a lesbian.
Earlier this month, Cecil Chao Sze-tsung,
a 77-year-old property magnate,
insisted that Gigi was ‘still single’,
despite the fact that she married her
long-term partner Sean Eav two years
ago. He reportedly offered to double his
2012 offer of $65m (£40m).
SEE Gigi’ Letter to her father:
Dear Daddy, I thought the timing was
right for us to have a candid
conversation. You are one of the most
mentally astute, energetic yet well
mannered and hard-working people this
humble earth has ever known. Your
confidence, quick wit, and charisma
brightens any room you enter. I love you
very much, and I think I can speak for
my brothers also, that we have the
utmost respect for you as a father and
role model in business. I am sorry that
people have been saying insensitive
things about you lately. The truth is,
they don’t understand that I will always
forgive you for thinking the way you do,
because I know you think you are acting
in my best interests. And we both don’t
care if anybody else understands. As
your daughter, I would want nothing
more than to make you happy.
But in terms of relationships, your
expectations of me and the reality of
who I am, are not coherent. I am
responsible for some of this misplaced
expectation, because I must have misled
you to hope there were other options for
me. You know I’ve had male lovers in the
past, and I’ve had happy, albeit short-
lived, relationships. I found myself
temporarily happy, buoyed by the
freshness, the attention, the interest,
of someone physically stronger than
myself. But it was always short-lived, as
I quickly lost patience, and felt an
indescribable discomfort in their
presence. It usually made me
frustrated, and I would yearn for my
freedom again. I’ve broken a few
hearts, hearts of good, honest and
loving men, and I’m sorry that it had to
be so. But with Sean, a woman, somehow
it was different. I am comfortable and
satisfied with my life and completely at
ease with her. I know it’s difficult for
you to understand how I could feel
romantically attracted to a woman; I
suppose I can’t really explain it either.
It just happens, peacefully and gently,
and after so many years, we still love
each other very much.
My regret is that you have no idea how
happy I am with my life, and there are
aspects of my life that you don’t share.
I suppose we don’t need each other’s
approval for our romantic relationships,
and I am sure your relationships are
really fantastic too. However, I do love
my partner Sean, who does a good job of
looking after me, ensuring I am fed,
bathed and warm enough every day, and
generally cheering me up to be a happy,
jolly girl. She is a large part of my life,
and I am a better person because of
her. Now, I’m not asking you to be best
of friends; however, it would mean the
world to me if you could just not be so
terrified of her, and treat her like a
normal, dignified human being. I
understand it is difficult for you to
understand, let alone accept this truth.
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring out who
I am, what is important in my life, who I
love and how best to live life, as an
expression of all these questions. I am
proud of my life, and I would not choose
to live it any other way (except also
figuring out how to be gentler on the
planet). I’m sorry to mislead you to
think I was only in a lesbian relationship
because there was a shortage of good,
suitable men in Hong Kong. There are
plenty of good men, they are just not
for me. Wishing you happiness.
Patiently yours,
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