I believe that s*x is a
wonderful thing. Without s*x, I would
not be writing this and you would not be
reading this. I also believe that s*x is a
gift from God made for the context of a
marriage covenant. There are many very
practical, secular reasons to make this
decision. Here are seven:
1) It’s a romantic gift
With more meaning than roses,
chocolates, teddy bears and even
engagement rings, one’s virginity is
something that can only be given away
once. If you save it for marriage, for
the person with whom you will be “’til
death do you part,” that can be
considered the most romantic gesture
possible. Didn’t some part of you cheer
on Nick and Jessica’s wedding night?
2) Married people have the best s*x most
often
According to psychpage.com, 40% of
married people have s*x twice a week
compared to 20-25% of unmarried
couples living together. In the same
study, married men and women reported
significantly higher emotional and
physical satisfaction with their s*x lives.
3) s*x life and life in general is better
when s*x is saved.
A study involving 2,035 married
participants done by the Journal of
Family Psychology found that people who
waited until marriage rated s*xual
quality 15% higher than people who had
premarital s*x. Relationship stability
amongst those people was an average of
22% higher and relationship
satisfaction was 20% higher than those
who had s*x before getting married.
4) You’ll have no one to compare it to.
“You have to drive the car before you buy
it!”
Please. I’ve heard this so many times.
Only ever knowing what s*x is like with
one person is a blessing. Factoring s*xual
performance into whether or not a
relationship is worthwhile is MISSING THE
POINT of love. This type of logic can lead
to unhealthy curiosity resulting in
heart-wrenching affairs and divorce.
Researchers from the Journal of Family
Psychology found that saving s*x for
that one person “is more likely to create
a sense of security and clarity between
partners… about exclusivity and a
future.”
When I have s*x with my wife, if we get
it wrong the first time, I guess we’ll just
have to do it again. And again and
again and again for the rest of our
lives. I’m sure we’ll get it “right,” and
become even better at it, eventually.

5) There will be absolutely zero chance
of stds.
People can try wearing condoms, gloves,
garbage bags or even space suits, but
nothing protects like no s*x.
6) No unplanned pregnancies
Unless you’re the Virgin Mary. But
seriously, this used to be more of a valid
reason, but with modern-day birth
control and a culture that promotes and
celebrates “safe” legal abortion on
demand, people see this as less of an
issue. Before one considers abortion an
option, one should also consider what
Planned Parenthood had to say about it
in 1963 (pre-Roe v Wade):
“Is birth control abortion? Definitely
not. An abortion kills the life of a baby
after it has begun. It is dangerous to
your life and health. It may make you
sterile so that when you want a child you
cannot have it. Birth control merely
post-pones the beginning of life.”
7) Real marriage is about love, not s*x.
Let’s go back to this “’til death do us
part” notion. s*x can only be entirely
safe (emotionally, physically,
spiritually). s*x without love and
commitment doesn’t work (i.e. the movie
“Friends with Benefits”) and really
degrades a person to not much more
than a simple object if you think about
it. That commitment is made at one’s
wedding.
You may be thinking “this dude is crazy.”
While I understand how difficult the
abstinent lifestyle is given our natural
se*uality and our over-sexualized
culture, I would only be crazy if this
feat were unattainable or uncommon. I
personally know hundreds of people who
have made this decision, and statistics
show we will be much better off for doing
so.
http://sai.calu.edu/caltimes/
index.php/2013/02/08/having-s*x-
before-marriage-youre-missing-out-
no-really-2/
wonderful thing. Without s*x, I would
not be writing this and you would not be
reading this. I also believe that s*x is a
gift from God made for the context of a
marriage covenant. There are many very
practical, secular reasons to make this
decision. Here are seven:
1) It’s a romantic gift
With more meaning than roses,
chocolates, teddy bears and even
engagement rings, one’s virginity is
something that can only be given away
once. If you save it for marriage, for
the person with whom you will be “’til
death do you part,” that can be
considered the most romantic gesture
possible. Didn’t some part of you cheer
on Nick and Jessica’s wedding night?
2) Married people have the best s*x most
often
According to psychpage.com, 40% of
married people have s*x twice a week
compared to 20-25% of unmarried
couples living together. In the same
study, married men and women reported
significantly higher emotional and
physical satisfaction with their s*x lives.
3) s*x life and life in general is better
when s*x is saved.
A study involving 2,035 married
participants done by the Journal of
Family Psychology found that people who
waited until marriage rated s*xual
quality 15% higher than people who had
premarital s*x. Relationship stability
amongst those people was an average of
22% higher and relationship
satisfaction was 20% higher than those
who had s*x before getting married.
4) You’ll have no one to compare it to.
“You have to drive the car before you buy
it!”
Please. I’ve heard this so many times.
Only ever knowing what s*x is like with
one person is a blessing. Factoring s*xual
performance into whether or not a
relationship is worthwhile is MISSING THE
POINT of love. This type of logic can lead
to unhealthy curiosity resulting in
heart-wrenching affairs and divorce.
Researchers from the Journal of Family
Psychology found that saving s*x for
that one person “is more likely to create
a sense of security and clarity between
partners… about exclusivity and a
future.”
When I have s*x with my wife, if we get
it wrong the first time, I guess we’ll just
have to do it again. And again and
again and again for the rest of our
lives. I’m sure we’ll get it “right,” and
become even better at it, eventually.

5) There will be absolutely zero chance
of stds.
People can try wearing condoms, gloves,
garbage bags or even space suits, but
nothing protects like no s*x.
6) No unplanned pregnancies
Unless you’re the Virgin Mary. But
seriously, this used to be more of a valid
reason, but with modern-day birth
control and a culture that promotes and
celebrates “safe” legal abortion on
demand, people see this as less of an
issue. Before one considers abortion an
option, one should also consider what
Planned Parenthood had to say about it
in 1963 (pre-Roe v Wade):
“Is birth control abortion? Definitely
not. An abortion kills the life of a baby
after it has begun. It is dangerous to
your life and health. It may make you
sterile so that when you want a child you
cannot have it. Birth control merely
post-pones the beginning of life.”
7) Real marriage is about love, not s*x.
Let’s go back to this “’til death do us
part” notion. s*x can only be entirely
safe (emotionally, physically,
spiritually). s*x without love and
commitment doesn’t work (i.e. the movie
“Friends with Benefits”) and really
degrades a person to not much more
than a simple object if you think about
it. That commitment is made at one’s
wedding.
You may be thinking “this dude is crazy.”
While I understand how difficult the
abstinent lifestyle is given our natural
se*uality and our over-sexualized
culture, I would only be crazy if this
feat were unattainable or uncommon. I
personally know hundreds of people who
have made this decision, and statistics
show we will be much better off for doing
so.
http://sai.calu.edu/caltimes/
index.php/2013/02/08/having-s*x-
before-marriage-youre-missing-out-
no-really-2/
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