Perfectionism. In my personal opinion,
it’s both an asset and a weakness. It’s
good because it helps you have standards
in everything you do. It helps you to
strive t be your best. But it’s bad because
sometimes it causes you to take things a
little too far and feel awful if you don’t
do something the exact way you thought
you would. Regardless of all the good
things it can bring to your life,
perfectionism can really wreak havoc on
your dating life. Here are 7 ways being a
perfectionist might be ruining romance
for you (and of course a couple of tips
on how to prevent it).
It’s making you too picky
Standards are good in dating. In fact,
they are mandatory. You should never
allow yourself to be treated badly or
settle for less than you deserve. But,
often times, perfectionists take
standards a little too far. If you’re
looking for someone who’s perfect, you’ll
never find it. People aren’t perfect.
Neither are relationships. So, you might
be casting someone aside for really silly
reasons. Try not to limit your list to 101
things, instead just choose a few or
throw out the list altogether.
Stress is part of your daily routine
We can’t always be carefree, but that
doesn’t mean we have to worry about
every single little thing either. And
when you’re all caught up in how perfect
everything needs to be that’s exactly
what you’re doing- stressing about
everything. You’ll never just get caught
up in the moment and take in all the
magic of a new budding romance (or
love in general). Love is a beautiful
thing. Let it be.
The word should is a regular part of
your vocabulary
Guilty as charged (it’s actually one thing
I’m working on this year). And while
saying things like “I should exercise
more” or “I shouldn’t eat four more
pieces of cake” are probably OK for you,
all the shoulds in dating are just plain
awful. The fact is, there are no shoulds
in dating. It is what it is and you have to
accept whatever that is.
You pick at…everything
You likely pick apart yourself, your
boyfriend or the new guy you just met,
and your relationship as a whole. You
name it and you can pick it apart. And
that’s just not healthy. You’ll end up
turning little issues into much bigger
ones and not ever appreciating
something for how simple and wonderful
it is. Instead, embrace all that
wonderfulness.
The little bumps in the road seem like
failure
You might meet the perfect man for you,
but instead of working at the
relationship you’ll end it when things get
rocky. Relationships are rocky and there
will be some bumps along the way, but
that doesn’t mean things aren’t
working. When you’re a perfectionist,
you tend to view the difficulties as
failure when really it’s just the natural
progression of things. So relax a little.
Chances are, you’re doing just fine.
The fun will start to fade
Perfectionists don’t limit standards just
to themselves. Everything (and I do
mean everything) must be perfect. Your
significant other, your house, your car,
Monday night’s dinner. And when it
isn’t that way it makes you feel like a
failure and it totally deflates your
mood. This isn’t fun for anyone
involved. And what’s the point of life
and love if you can’t have fun?
Sometimes dinner will burn, but you can
order takeout. Your house might get
messy, but you can clean it up before the
in-laws come to visit. It’s OK. Really.
Source: welovedates.com
it’s both an asset and a weakness. It’s
good because it helps you have standards
in everything you do. It helps you to
strive t be your best. But it’s bad because
sometimes it causes you to take things a
little too far and feel awful if you don’t
do something the exact way you thought
you would. Regardless of all the good
things it can bring to your life,
perfectionism can really wreak havoc on
your dating life. Here are 7 ways being a
perfectionist might be ruining romance
for you (and of course a couple of tips
on how to prevent it).
It’s making you too picky
Standards are good in dating. In fact,
they are mandatory. You should never
allow yourself to be treated badly or
settle for less than you deserve. But,
often times, perfectionists take
standards a little too far. If you’re
looking for someone who’s perfect, you’ll
never find it. People aren’t perfect.
Neither are relationships. So, you might
be casting someone aside for really silly
reasons. Try not to limit your list to 101
things, instead just choose a few or
throw out the list altogether.
Stress is part of your daily routine
We can’t always be carefree, but that
doesn’t mean we have to worry about
every single little thing either. And
when you’re all caught up in how perfect
everything needs to be that’s exactly
what you’re doing- stressing about
everything. You’ll never just get caught
up in the moment and take in all the
magic of a new budding romance (or
love in general). Love is a beautiful
thing. Let it be.
The word should is a regular part of
your vocabulary
Guilty as charged (it’s actually one thing
I’m working on this year). And while
saying things like “I should exercise
more” or “I shouldn’t eat four more
pieces of cake” are probably OK for you,
all the shoulds in dating are just plain
awful. The fact is, there are no shoulds
in dating. It is what it is and you have to
accept whatever that is.
You pick at…everything
You likely pick apart yourself, your
boyfriend or the new guy you just met,
and your relationship as a whole. You
name it and you can pick it apart. And
that’s just not healthy. You’ll end up
turning little issues into much bigger
ones and not ever appreciating
something for how simple and wonderful
it is. Instead, embrace all that
wonderfulness.
The little bumps in the road seem like
failure
You might meet the perfect man for you,
but instead of working at the
relationship you’ll end it when things get
rocky. Relationships are rocky and there
will be some bumps along the way, but
that doesn’t mean things aren’t
working. When you’re a perfectionist,
you tend to view the difficulties as
failure when really it’s just the natural
progression of things. So relax a little.
Chances are, you’re doing just fine.
The fun will start to fade
Perfectionists don’t limit standards just
to themselves. Everything (and I do
mean everything) must be perfect. Your
significant other, your house, your car,
Monday night’s dinner. And when it
isn’t that way it makes you feel like a
failure and it totally deflates your
mood. This isn’t fun for anyone
involved. And what’s the point of life
and love if you can’t have fun?
Sometimes dinner will burn, but you can
order takeout. Your house might get
messy, but you can clean it up before the
in-laws come to visit. It’s OK. Really.
Source: welovedates.com
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