5 Ways Men Can Be More Supportive of Their Wives

One of the
most important qualities that men look
for in women is support, or what we
would affectionately call “having our
back.” We ask her to pick us up when we
are down, to be our friend and our
confidant, to be strong where we are
weak. Sometimes as men, though, I
believe we forget that we can leave our
women empty in the support
department. While they are busy being
everything to everyone, sometimes they
are left thinking “what about me?”
Support comes in different forms and
means different things to different
people, but here are a few ways that we
can support our women better.
1. Be Proactive…Not Reactive
One of the reasons that you may find
your woman being passive aggressive is
because she is feeling overwhelmed, but
not telling you. Although she could
communicate these things to you, one
way to make sure that you are
supporting her is by just asking her
“what more can I do to help?” It’s a
simple question, but has a huge impact.
It lets her know that you are not only
open and willing to help her, but that
you are also eager to help. And
sometimes that makes all of the
difference. Women love men that take
initiative. And more than likely, they
return those same favors for you. So
instead of just thinking “well she didn’t
ask,” take it upon yourself and ask her.
(I’m sure she will find something for
you to do!)
2. There Is More Than One Way to
Contribute
I find that one of the biggest
frustrations of women is when they feel
like they have to wear all of the hats in
the household. Sometimes as men, we
feel that as long as we go to work then
we have fulfilled our husband duties…
well, not quite. This may have been so
when wives only had to tend to their
house and children, but that was an age
of old. Now that many wives are working
outside of the home as well, we must
open our minds up as men to be more
willing to contribute to the relationship
than just our paychecks. This is
important because sometimes we may
lose our ability to contribute financially,
but we still need to be able to contribute
to the household! This may be through
taking on more household duties and
parenting duties, providing more
emotional support, and in other ways.
Most of our wives will support us through
almost anything if we can show that we
can support them with more than our
earning potential.
3. Make Her Feel Heard
ometimes supporting your wife comes in
the form of you actively listening to her.
Many times, as a wife, she feels like she
is the only one who is not being heard.
She feels her needs are irrelevant and
that her desires have become obsolete.
This means that sometimes when she
wants to talk she just needs you to sit
there and listen to her. That’s it…just
listen! Listen to her talk about her
dreams, her ambitions, her frustrations,
and her fears.
4. Give her time for herself
he role of a wife and mother never ends,
but sometimes she needs for it to end
for a day, a few hours, or even a
weekend. Sometimes she gets so lost in
her role that she loses herself and that
breeds feelings of resentment. A big
part of supporting her is giving her time
to rest, recover, and find herself again.
How can you do that? Send her away
with her friends or by herself every once
in a while. Take care of the morning
rituals and the kids and allow her to
sleep in sometimes. Encourage her to
revisit that old hobby she used to love, or
that one business she thought about
starting. The more she feels like she still
has some identity and time beyond just
being wife and mother, the better wife
and mother she will be.
5. Encourage and support her
upport can come in many different
forms and we all need it in our
marriages. For women it comes a little
more naturally to give support, but as
men we may have to be a little more
conscious of how we can better support
our women. A mate that feels supported
and secure will naturally become a better
mate and parent, and person. Support
and encourage each other
Source: Blackandmarriedwithkids.com