81 Ways To Win Your Husband's Love -

1-Listen actively. When your husband
expresses an opinion or a thought, pay
attention. This shows you respect him and
his views and nothing pleases a man more.
2- Dress pleasantly/attractively. Mostly
women dress properly when going
outside and at home they wear worst
clothes..U should dress urself so that ur
husband will feel good when he looks at
u...
3- Smell good.
4-Say thank you with a smile. When your
husband does an odd job around the
house, thank him like you really mean it.
He will know that his help is not taken for
granted and he will be happy to do more.
5- Race to the door when he comes home,
as if you were waiting for him. Smile
and hug.
6-Prepare his favorite meal. After he
returns home from work on an ordinary
day, surprise your husband with his
favorite dinner. He will not only be glad to
have the food he likes best, but will
appreciate the time and effort you put in
preparing it.
7-Don’t lay out all your problems on your
husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a
little mental break
8- Don’t keep asking him, “what are you
thinking?”… because unlike women,
men’s thoughts are as random as the
results of a Google search.
9- Give your husband a nice massage,
after a particularly exhausting day at
work.
10- Be kind to your mother-in-law the
same way you would like your husband
to be kind to your own mother. Treat his
siblings as ur siblings and his father as
ur father and u would see then how
much he will respect u
11- Learn all the rights and obligations of
each other in Islam .
12-Keep your house clean, at least to the
level that he wants it.
13- Compliment him on the things you
know he’s not so confident about (looks,
intelligence) etc. This will build his self-
esteem.
14-Tell him he’s the best husband ever.
15-Call his relatives for a lunch or dinner at
your home.
16-Give him a simple task to do at home
and then thank him when he does it. This
will encourage him to do more.
17-When he’s talking about something
boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask
questions to make it seem like you’re
interested.
18-Stop nagging non-stop before Allah
ta’ala gives you something really to
complaint about.
19-Help him to find and build his inner
strengths and skills.
20- Encourage him to do good deeds.
21-Share Islamic knowledge with each
other. Try to watch Islamic channels
together so that u both can learn.
22- If he’s in a bad mood, give him some
space. He’ll get over it, insha Allah.
23-Thank him sincerely for providing you
with everything.
24- If he’s angry with you and starts
yelling, let him yell it out while you’re
quiet. You will see your fight will end a
lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can
tell him your side of the story and how
you want him to change something.
25- When you’re mad at him, don’t say
“YOU make me furious”, rather, “This
action makes me upset”. Direct your
anger to the action and circumstance
rather than at him.
26- Remember that your husband has
feelings, so take them into
consideration.
27-Let him chill with his friends without
guilt, especially if they’re good guys.
Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t
feel “cooped up” at home.
28-If your husband is annoyed over a little
thing you do (and you can control it), then
stop doing it. Really.
29[b]-Learn how to tell him what you
expect without him having to guess all the
time. Learn to communicate your feelings[/
b].
30-Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not
worth it.
31- Make jokes. If you’re not naturally
funny, go on the internet and read some
jokes, and then tell them to him.
32-Tell him you’re the best wife ever and
compliment yourself on certain things you
know you’re good at.
33-Learn to make his favorite dish.
34-Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him
with ur friends or family unnecessarily.
35-Use your time wisely and get things
accomplished. If you’re a housewife, take
online classes and get active in your
community. This will make you happy and a
secondary bonus is that it impresses your
husband.
36-Husband and wife should discuss and
communicate with wisdom with each other
to convey what they like and dislike of each
other to do or not to do. NOT give
command or instruction like servant.
Because Allah says in quan “They are
garment to each other”
37- Tell your husband you love him many
many times.
38- Make sure all his clothes are clean and
pressed so he is always looking fresh and
crisps.
39- Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve
the bonds of compassion and love
between the two of you, every day,
every prayer. Ask him to protect that
bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil
destroys the love between spouses, he is
the most beloved of Shaytaan.
40-The way to a man’s heart is through his
stomach. Try to make his favorite food
41-Always let him know that you appreciate
him working. It makes it easier for him to
go to work.
42-Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities
can be gifts.
43-Listen to him. (Even when he talks about
extremely geeky things like Queries, Tables
and other boring things.)
44-Try (hard as it might be) to take interest
in his hobbies.
45- Take care of your skin, esp. facial.
Face is center of attraction.
46- Learn tricks and “techniques” to
please your husband in intimacy. Of
course goes both ways.
47-When you are sitting together, quietly
slip your hand into his. Your husband will
love the easy expression of intimacy
between you two.
48- If you are not satisfied intimately,
talk to him and tell him. Help him or
provide resources, don’t wait till matters
become worse.
49-Prepare for special evenings with him
with special dinner and exclusive time
50-Don’t discuss important/controversial
matters with him when he is tired or
sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.
51-Learn to compromise
52-Respect his rights
53- You have to know about the financial
conditions of your husband so that you
do not demand a thing that is too hard
for him to buy. Because if wife demands
a very expensive thing which husband
couldnt buy then he becomes mentally
tensed and sometimes he does not tell
her wife about that .
54-Ups and Downs are a part of time. You
have to keep your behavior with your
husband same in both times. Else he will
be broken. If any calamity strikes him make
him sure that you are with him and will be
always
55-Share your happiness and sadness with
him.
56-Accept him as is, he is a package deal.
57- Send your husband a text message
out of the blue with a message of love.
58-Send him an email without a reason.
59-Ask him to buy gifts to his parents and
siblings.
60-Write love notes or poems and place
them in the book he's been reading.
61-Teach your children to respect and
honor their father.
62-Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
63-Call your husband with the best names,
cute nicknames, and names he loves to
hear.
64-Always give him pleasant surprise.
65- Preserve and guard the tongue.
66-Expect, accept, and overlook his
shortcomings.
67-Expect and respect his jealously.
68-Put food in your husband's mouth.
69- Leave the past for Allah, don't dwell
on, dig into, or bring it up.
70-Don't ignore the small things, deal with
them before they be come big.
71-Avoid being harsh-hearted.
72-Respect and show that you appreciate
his thinking.
73-Respect and understand him when he
might not be in mood for intimacy.
74-Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the
home.
75-Remember you are not always right or
perfect yourself.
76-Have a good intention for him.
77-Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in
your home for the two of you to pray at
night whenever you can.
78-Let him have the TV remote. Granted,
that you wish your husband spent more
time with you, than watching the sports
channel/NEWS, but it will make him happy.
79- Find a quiet moment with your
husband to whisper “ I love you” in his
ears. If you have already said it, say it
again. You can never say these three
words too often and you can be sure,
that every time it will make your
husband glad, he married you.
80-- Hold his gaze. When you are
speaking to your husband or listening to
him, make sure that you keep eye
contact. This will assure him of your
attention and your respect, which is
empowering to any man.
81-Take care of his money and properties.
A woman came to ask the Prophet
(peace be upon him) about some matter,
and when he had dealt with it, he asked
her, "Do you have a husband?" She said,
"Yes." He asked her, "How are you with
him?" She said, "I never fall short in my
duties, except for that which is beyond
me." He said, "Pay attention to how you
treat him, for he is your Paradise and
your Hell." (Ahmad, al-Nisa'i Al-Targhib
wa'l-Tarhib, 3/52)
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon
him) said:
"Any woman who dies, and her husband
is pleased with her, will enter Paradise."
[Ibn Majah, Book 1 Hadith 59
The parts in Bold I find very much
interesting, I have no doubt a lady
observing all these rules would have an
everlasting happy Family.
If I have a wife doing all these (81), Walahi
she would be the queen of my Empire .
Although all theses cant be achieved at a
time, working on them one point at a time
consistently would make the Magic.
Sallam.
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