Four Things You Cannot Change In Your Guy -

Am sure every girl in a serious relationship
can identify with some of the things am
about to say here. Usually we meet our guy
and fall in love and everything seems
perfect. We are in heaven except for one
tiny little thing .Initially it is a tiny little thing
but that tiny little thing is really not that
tiny because it is the only thing that makes
our happiness not so complete. Initially we
try to ignore it and try to live with it. But
with the passage of time it becomes not
such a little thing anymore and we cannot
ignore it any more –then we begin to
attempt to do what we have been told
several times never to do in a relationship.
We begin to attempt to change him. Take it
from me; it is a very harrowing experience.
It would leave you exhausted and miserable
except you try to get over the fact that you
can never cure him of that thing. Am not
talking of his ever forgetting to lift the toilet
seat to pee or never cleaning up after
himself. Here are some specific things in
my opinion I think you will have a
miserable time trying to cure your guy of.
If he is a football buff, forget it. No way is
he going to leave his football for you. It is
not possible. Just plan your life around his
football fanaticism. Just get used to
watching his sports Channels when you
would rather be watching something else.
Let him have his football and all the things
that go with it. He has to watch all the
matches of his club side with his friends of
course and he expects you to come along.
Lord help you if you hate football. Just go
along and pray his club side wins each time
they play. If he is too into his club you have
to learn also to cope with his depression or
anger tantrums if his club side doesn’t win.
If he is a beer guzzler you can’t change
that easily .My friend simply told me ‘I
drink’ right from the very first few
conversations I had with him. “Everybody in
my family drinks” and he told me clearly
“Don’t go there.” I love you but things I can
never change for you is- cut my hair or not
drink my beer or change my religion so
don’t even try. You catch my drift. If you
drink beer yourself, the best you can do is
agree with him that both of you never go
beyond a certain number of bottles or cans
at each sitting. Nothing would ever appeal
to him more than his cold sweating bottle
of beer not even choice wine. Trust me I
know.
This might sound rather strange but it is
happening. If your guy Still goes frequently
to his mom for his meals, to pay many of
his bills, to get his laundry done etc then
your guy is a mummy’s boy. You are going
to have a tough time getting him to leave
this comfort zone and grow up. Expect lots
of issues because he is going to seek his
mother’s approval for everything. He must
seek approval from his mom before he
even gets to be very serious with you on
anything. He dates only women his mum
like. He is likely to break with you any time
if the relationship between you and his
mum change. You can’t come between a
man and his mommy no matter how old he
is. She will always make him feel guilty if he
does something she does not want. He will
always want to please his mother.
If he is a couch potato you probably
cannot change him. A couch potato is a
person who spends much time sitting or
lying down usually watching television or
reading. In other words a couch potato is a
lazy person. He may not want to do
anything else after work or during
weekends but just lay on the settee and
surf channels or chat with his online
friends .Getting him to get up to get some
certain things done will always be an uphill
task. There will always be lots of friction
between the two of you from conflict of
interest especially if you are choleric and
like getting a lot of things done. The best
you can do is to join him on some days you
have less to do and just stay around doing
nothing but eat snacks and watch television
as a bribe for him to join you in something
else more interesting to you.
A woman said I have been in a relationship
for years, with a mama’s boy, couch potato
and sports freak wrapped in one. She says “
your guy will always be as you see him now
so open your eyes, wake up, he will never
change….he can’t change he will only
become more of what he is. If you don’t
like what you see move on.” I think she has
hit the nail on the head.
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